I haven't posted a My Husband Rocks post in a few weeks. With Christmas and New Years, it seemed to take a back burner. Which is most certainly why my post about Rick is what it is this week.
Rick felt the need to confront me this week about my lack of attention, when it comes to him. And it was important enough to him that he confronted me in the way he knew I would actually hear him ... by an e-mail .. from his office in our house to my computer in the kitchen. (** ouch .. what do you think that says about me and my "devotion" to my computer?)
These are not easy conversations to have with your spouse. I know that because we have had this conversation more than once, especially this time of year. I always let the activities of the last quarter of the year take priority in my life, at the expense of my relationships. I think I always just assume that Rick will understand, because he is in the midst of the craziness and surely he can see how swamped I am! Yeah, he sees how swamped I am. He also sees that for several months in a row, all of those things take direct priority over him.
Honestly, I don't know how to keep that from happening other than to be more mindful of him and more intentional in making him a part of my day.
I want to be the kind of wife that would do anything to try to make my husband happy.
So this week, Rick Rocks ~ Because He Cares Enough About Our Relationship to Confront Me When I Am Neglecting Him.
If he didn't, I'd probably just go on with things and never notice. I'm not proud to admit that. It certainly is something I am wanting to work on this year, especially during the busy times of the year.
Anyone have words of wisdom about things you do to keep this from happening?
Hey, I was glad to get the invitation today. I had been thinking about you all lately and wondering how to read your blog again.
ReplyDeleteOne thing that does make a difference in our marriage is that we make dating each other a priority. Yes, there are times we have gotten sidetracked, but we always get back too it. This year I am doing something even more to make sure we have quality time together without the kids. It's a 52 dates this year project. We used to only do it once or twice a month. A lot will be creative at home dates after the kids are in bed.
Also, asking Rick, "What can I do for you today" and "How can I pray for you today" are great things to ask daily, letting him know you care.
Hope that helps. Have a great day!
Perhaps it would help to think back on another marriage from your past.....that ought to fix it!!!
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What a great post. I love reading about your marriage because it is so encouraging to me. I haven't been by in a while - since you went private you don't show up in my reader anymore ... when I got the comment from you today I realized I needed to stop by. I will make a point to come by more often.
ReplyDeleteI have to tell you - the music started playing on your blog and the song "Turn Up The Music" came on. Well, I have that song on my itunes and hadn't heard it for a while. I was just listening to a playlist while I cleaned and mopped my floors but it had finished. Then, the song start playing and for some reason, I didn't know it was coming from your blog. I thought it was coming from my Itunes, and I could NOT figure it out. It was not on the playlist I was listening to and I could not see how it started. I thought it was some sort of divine intervention and God pressed play on my itunes so I'd hear that song :)
Hmmmmm.....I should probably get out of my comfy chair with my laptop in hand and go spend some much needed time with my hubby. I can't wait to read more of your comments for ideas. I like the 52 dates a year!
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